So many obstacles on the way of finding true love, or are there? Perhaps if we weren’t afraid to love and open our hearts to people close to us, we would not struggle so much. Perhaps, if we didn’t turn a blind eye to people near us who want to be in our lives – more happy couples would walk the streets together.
Does he exists? Every second girl asks herself at some point in her life whether her Mr. Right exists and if so when is he coming to swipe her off her feet. At some point in their lives they are being asked all the right questions but by the wrong people. For instance, a nice boy asks a girl to go out for dinner with him, go out for drinks or coffee and make a date out of it and the girl feels like all these questions are exactly what she wants to hear but from another person. I mean can we choose who we love?
Some of us subconsciously have feelings for someone who seems so near and yet remains so far. The issue at hand then is that some people wait around for too long to admit these feelings and when they finally decide to step out of the denial phase into confession and acceptance the other person seems to slip away. Others are so hung up on their past relationships, idealizing everything about the person they were previously involved in. Blinded by these idealizations people do not notice the opportunities before them, does it mean that they are missing out on their Mr. Right?
Is there just one Mr. Right? Imagine if you fall in love and the moments you spend with this one person feel like eternity. When he holds you in his arms you feel like you belong there and when he smiles at you there is nothing in the World that would make you happier. It is in his look that you know that he loves you, because when he is making a conversation with his friends, he looks at you every two minutes. And it is not just a simple look but the look that tells you that he doesn’t need anyone else but you. And for one reason or the other the magical relationship breaks. Boom. Nada. Eventually, with time you heal and find another person to be with. But does it still feel like the same way? Does he make you feel exactly the same way as your ex did? Do you still spend hours thinking of him? Or do you simply move on and convince yourself that he wasn’t Mr. Right after all and this next person is?
All these questions and no one simple answer. Personally, I believe when it’s right – you know it’s right. Most of the time your Mr. Right doesn’t come easy, it takes a couple of challenges, break ups, make ups, tears and smiles to get with that right person for you.
Today we talk a lot about relationships and how they should be and each one of us has an opinion on what is right and what is wrong in a relationship. The question is how do you define right or wrong in a relationship when it all comes down to being relative in comparison to what is at the stake of it. Sometimes I feel like most of the relationships these days are artificial be it a romantic relationship or a friendship – superficial. It is like people are being friends or in a couple just to be able to say that they are in one. Others become friends or stay in a couple because they become comfortable with the person they are with – even of their passion or love for each other has died. It is strange. It depends on the circumstances of the situation I guess but still strange.
Heartbreaks. Every relationship at one point or another has a disappointment phase – unfortunately some lead to a bigger problem heartbreak! It hurts. When you know that your happiness is right in front of you and the temporary problem can be fixed and yet your future just slips away from you – you feel like the whole world is falling apart!
So how do you keep the hearts safe and have a long lasting relationship whilst managing your career and family? Tricky question, I know. Do you simply have to get your priorities straight or do you just take it day by day and se where you end up at the end of the day?
The think is I do t have an answer to any of these questions and frankly I don’t know anyone who has. Yet something tells me that of you keep the faith and fix the short term problems on your way you are bound to find that happy place that we are so desperately looking for! Don’t you agree? The generation today goes out and searches for the new, better experience instead of fixing the one they have because they believe it’s easier to build new relationship than fix an old one. I am not so sure about that. Building takes years of work to destroy something you need a second of a minute. Think about it next time you decide to break someone’s heart or anything for that matter! Is it really worth it?